I am greatly amused every time I see a picture in someone’s facebook album titled “Friends forever.” In this ever changing world and time nothing remains forever. Has it ever happened to you that the folks that you considered as friends at one point in time do not exist today in your world. Relationships go sour, bosom friends become foes. Why does this happen?? I have a few thoughts on it, tell me if you agree. My reasons for the same:
Ego or taking a position: like saying I am right and you are wrong. Not accepting your mistake when you know what you did was wrong. It becomes so hard to say a simple line, I AM SORRY.
Expectations: You want the other person to behave according to you. You are heart broken when a friend lets you down.
Taking someone for granted: Your lack of gratitude. I do hundreds of good things for you but you only remember one bad incident that happened like some millions of years ago.
Finding imperfections in oneself or others: There is something wrong with him or her or them. In short everybody. You give such people something wonderful to read and they will instantly pin point a grammatical mistake. No one wants to be close to them or anybody like them for that matter.
Insensitivity or oversensitivity: Insensitivity would be someone is confiding in you the biggest problem of your life and you are laughing or mocking at them. Yet too much sensitivity is not good because the other person does not know how to behave in front of you. Suddenly you cry or suddenly you laugh. In such case he might feel it is better to just stay away.
Being judgmental and grumbling
“Intimacy is dissolving into infinity which brings you to the moment.” You must learn to go beyond the events. Simply be in the present. Just be where you are and what you are. Do not carry any baggage. Talk only knowledge. Share what you know. It is difficult as we are so used to talking gossip.
Most importantly one must realise, there is nothing that is forever. All there is today will change with time.
